Please note: This post does not consider individual experiences. At Change Creates Change, we recognize that there are differences in what is covered in research and parents’ and families’ personal experiences. We have generalized the content in this blog post based on scenarios we have come across in the research.
Eating disorders not only impact the individual who is living with an eating disorder, they can also impact the family unit. Recovery can be difficult for parents and other family members as well. We know that eating disorder development can cause a strain on relationships, and that it can be difficult to navigate these issues.
Research often shows the perspective of patients and their health care providers, with little to no mention of parents or families. The research that is focused on parents is mostly negative and concentrates on their possible role in the underlying cause of the disorder. There are different factors that can cause eating disorders. Family members can also experience concern, despair, frustration, anger, confusion and guilt, in their own unique ways. We respect these feelings and know that they are valid.
The burden of mental illness on parents and family life is one impact of an eating disorder. Caregiving can have many rewards, but it is also common to experience emotional and physical stress. Caring for your child who is in recovery can also be tough on your mental health. Here are some strategies to help you manage:
Accept and ask for help
It is okay to let others assist you. It helps to keep a list of ways that others can help you.
Focus on what you are able to provide
It’s normal to feel guilty sometimes, but understand that no one is a “perfect” caregiver. Believe that you are doing the best you can and making the best decisions you can.
Set realistic goals
Break large tasks into smaller steps that you can do one at a time. Prioritize, make lists and establish a daily routine.
Get connected
At Change Creates Change we have different programs that connect parents and carers of individuals living with an eating disorder. These programs give folks a chance to share their experiences and learn from others.
Join a support group
A support group can provide validation and encouragement, as well as problem-solving strategies for difficult situations.
Talk to a professional
Your feelings are valid, and speaking with a therapist could help you navigate the challenges and emotions of the recovery process. You are also a part of the process, and the well-being of your child is not complete without yours.
How Can Change Creates Change Help
If you are a parent or carer, please check out the following programs:
Parents EmpowerED: You will learn how to help your child recover from their eating disorder while gaining skills to protect yourself against fatigue and burnout.
Parenting Through Your Child’s Mental Health Struggles: This 8-week, interactive workshop will teach you advanced skills in supporting your child throughout their mental health struggles. Content is influenced by Emotion-Focused Family Therapy strategies.
First Do No Harm: This is an on-demand webinar for parents and carers. In this free webinar Jillian, RD, RP, our Clinical Director and Change Creates Change Founder, will teach you how to detect if your child has an eating disorder, walk you through the next steps you need to take and help you problem solve through some of the obstacles in your way right now.
Eating Disorder Support Group for Parents and Carers, Put The Kettle On: In this group, you will feel like part of a community and gain a support system of folks who can relate to the struggles and challenges of navigating their child’s eating disorder recovery.
